Saturday, March 21, 2009

Fruits :D

Fruits are rich in vitamins and fiber, they play an important role in ensuring we look radiant and healthy! :D Its a natural way to stay away from flus, coughs and other diseases, indeed the saying is true, 'an apple a day keeps the doctor away'. Of course apples alone won't be enough, it is important to have a different variety of fruits in our daily diet. Malaysia is really blessed with various local fruits which are plentiful in the markets like pineapples, bananas, papayas, guavas, all at a reasonable price.

Friday, March 20, 2009

Coping with Stress


Facing stress is inevitable as we go through the different phases and situations in life. Actually, a little stress sometimes is good to motivate us to pursue our goals but the case for most of us in general is that sometimes we get too stressed out which may affect our eating habits, emotions and health. How to cope with stress? I think it all depends on how we tackle each situation.

1. Avoid unnecessary stress: When you can't take it anymore, we'll just have to say 'no' sometimes

2. Think positive: Keep calm in any situation. No matter how bad it is, getting stressed up and frustrated will not help. Keeping cool to find a solution might be a better option.

3. Find time to relax: After getting work done, take time off to let go of a day's work. This will help relax the mind and to focus better after that.

4. Express yourselves: Some things might be private and we probably would like to keep it to ourselves. Nevertheless, if you find that its too much for yourself to handle, tell someone you trust and listening to another person's point of view might help :)

4. Get enough sleep: I've found that its hard to sleep when being stressed up. Pray, relax and get a good night's rest to recharge for a new day.

5. Avoid dwelling on past things: Look forward, everyone makes mistakes in life because no human being is perfect. Everyday is a new day to face new challenges and to learn something new :D

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

Living an active life

Sports is an activity which can be carried out by people from all walks of life. Sports make people happy :D Why?
1. Improve fitness
2. Release stress- When you go for sports, you have a time to just let go of everything else :D
3. Calorie burning
4. Improve confidence
5. Helps you sleep better
Everyone has different purposes for doing sports be it indoor or outdoor. Most importantly, it is essential to be active to lead a healthy and happy lifestyle! :D

Monday, March 16, 2009

10 reasons to smile :D

1) It looks better than a frown
2) It improves your day
3) It makes other people's day brighter
4) Make new friends
5) Shows friendship
6) Leaves favorable impressions
7) Enjoyable to give and receive
8) Makes you look happy, confident, and self-assured
9) Puts others at ease
10) A smile could be the start of a lifetime relationship!

Everyone looks their best when they smile...Start smiling people :D

Saturday, March 14, 2009

6 key social skills

First post starting on a bright note :D
Happily, like any skill, social strategies and techniques can be learned…

The main social skills are as follows:

1) The ability to remain relaxed, or at a tolerable level of anxiety while in social situations

Regardless of how skillful you are in social situations, if you are too anxious, your brain is functioning in way unsuited to speaking and listening. In addition, if your body and face give the unconscious message that you are nervous, it will be more difficult to build rapport with others.

2) Listening skills, including letting others know you are listening

When you had dinner with Gladstone, you were left feeling that he was the most charming person you had ever met. But after dinner with Disraeli, you felt that you were the wittiest, the most intelligent, the most charming person.
Dr Warren Bennis PhD, University of California

There is little more attractive and seductive than being truly listened to. Good listening skills include:

Making 'I'm listening' noises - 'Uh-huh', 'really?', 'oh yes?' etc.
Feeding back what you've heard - "So he went to the dentist? What happened?"
Referring back to others' comments later on - "You know how you were saying earlier…"
Physical stillness, eye contact and attentiveness while the other person is talking.

3) Empathy with and interest in others' situations

A major part of social anxiety is self consciousness, which is greatly alleviated by focusing strongly on someone else. A fascination (even if forced at first) with another's conversation not only increases your comfort levels, it makes them feel interesting.

4) The ability to build rapport, whether natural or learned

Rapport is a state of understanding or connection that occurs in a good social interaction. It says basically "I am like you, we understand each other". Rapport occurs on an unconscious level, and when it happens, the language, speech patterns, body movement and posture and other aspects of communication can synchronise down to incredibly fine levels.

Rapport is an unconscious process, but it can be encouraged by conscious efforts.

Body posture 'mirroring', or movement 'matching'
Reflecting back language and speech, including rate, volume, tone, and words
Feeding back what you have heard, as in 2) above

5) Knowing how, when and how much to talk about yourself - 'self disclosure'

Talking about yourself too much and too early can be a major turn-off for the other party in conversation. Good initial small-talk is often characterised by discussion of subjects not personal to either party, or by an exchanging of personal views in a balanced way.

However, as conversations and relationships progress, disclosing personal facts (small, non-emotional ones first!) leads to a feeling of getting to know each other.

6) Appropriate eye contact

If you don't look at someone when you are talking or listening to them, they will get the idea that:

You are ignoring them

You are untrustworthy

You don't like the look of them (!)
This doesn't mean you have to stare at them. In fact, staring at someone while talking to them can give them the feeling you are angry with them. Keeping your eyes on them while you are listening, of course, is only polite.

Of course these are not hard-and-fast rules, eye contact for instance, varies between cultures, but in general, practicing these will improve your social skills if you find social situations difficult.

Article by Roger Elliott, author of the Free Self Confidence Course

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