Thursday, April 9, 2009

How NOT to argue

At any point of time, we've probably got in arguments before. Here are some steps to solve an argument peacefully plus saving your breath :D

Take a few deep breaths. Loosen up those tensed muscles. When you are more calm, you're able to make more rational decisions.
Do. Not. Yell. This will only aggravate the situation, the other person, and yourself. If you stay calm, chances are the other person will realize how ridiculous they sound and they will start to calm down also.
Leave other people out of the argument. It's between you and the other person(s). Dragging someone else in will only make the situation worse.
Be careful of your body language. Keep your arms at your sides or better yet, sitting down (without your arms folded) will show the other person that you're not looking for a fight.
Listen and hear what the other person has to say. A better understanding of why the person is upset in the first place will help both of you diffuse the argument more quickly. Should you feel the need to explain your side, do so in a non-aggressive way. Don't verbally attack the person or make demands.
Consider the other persons point of view. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, even if you don't agree with it. Put yourself in their shoes.
Ask the other person what you can do to make it better and/or how the problem can be resolved and actually be willing to go along with whatever the answer may be.

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